(active voice)(~not Scottish)
This summer just started... Can you believe that?
I learned some interesting lessons this spring. I'm not sure why some things have to be so damn hard to learn. This spring, for me, was all about communication.
If you know me - or read my blog (like - at all) then you know my method of communication is all about information. I use communication to inform people. That's fine ~but~ people don't like being told stuff - about things - all the time. I actually sort of feel bad for people who ask me questions. I always have this empathetic moment, where I sigh and think, "You have no idea what you just got yourself into." Yes - that's what that sigh is; for those of you who have heard it... That sigh is not, "Really? Now I HAVE to answer your question? Why you make me work so much?" no-no... There really is no short, simple answer to the question, "What did you do this weekend?" in my world.
That's not exactly true. Here's the thing. You really don't care about all the details involved in how I came to end up having a conversation with a girl I haven't seen in almost 15 years. All you really care about is that I ended up having a conversation with a girl I haven't seen in 15 years. And - that's all you're going to remember in about a week and a half anyway. Unless you're one of the few people who really enjoys it when I go into ridiculous amounts of detail, or one of the people who are just used to it at this point. Some of you guys already know what that sigh means - sigh yourself - and have the thought, "Ah crap, what have I gotten myself into now... Better make sure I don't have to be anywhere in the next 30 minutes or so... Why do you move your hands so much when you talk? Wait did he just say duck vagina?"
ah - inside jokes
So, firstly, I'm trying to get better at listening to and taking the advice of others. I guess you guys are pretty smart - and can offer a different perspective on what's going on - and have good, useful things to say... I guess... heh. I'm also reading books, written for people who aren't good at dealing with people and "regular" life situations - and REALLY trying not to jeer at them - and REALLY trying to learn something about social engagement. And, of course, trying to practice at this stuff....
I've learned that sometimes you can say a lot without saying much of anything. And, there is definitely such a thing as saying too much. (~A lesson we all learn at some point.) I'm trying to gear my words toward actions and activity - trying to make my voice more active rather than passive - trying to engage AND inform. Bloody complicated - this.
And, I thought meeting women was tough... Sheesh...
